5 Misperceptions about Adoption from Foster Care

There are many misconceptions about adoption from foster care such as cost, rules and regulations. Many of them are just not true. If you are serious about learning more about fostering or adopting, please be sure to get information from a trusted resource. If you need help connecting with resources or a local agency contact us. You can also contact the foster care program manager in your State or Territory.

Misperceptions about Adoption from Foster Care:  

  • Adoption is expensive. Unlike the private adoption of an infant or adopting internationally, there are virtually no costs associated with adoption from the US child welfare system. In addition, the vast majority of youth adopted from foster care are also eligible for monthly adoption assistance up to the level of the foster care rate. 
  • You have to be married. You do not have to be married to adopt in most states. Many children have been very successfully adopted by single parents. Single-parent families accounted for 29 percent of all adoptions from foster care in 2014 (AFCARS). 
  • You have to have a college degree. Having a high school diploma or college education is not required. What is important is that you are stable, flexible, and compassionate, and that you have a good sense of humor. Most importantly, you must have the support and commitment to raise a child and to be there for him throughout his life. 
  • You have to own a home and each child has to have their own room. You can rent your home or live in an apartment or a mobile home so long as your living situation is a stable one. 
  • You can’t adopt if you’re in the military. Military families stationed overseas and within the U.S. are eligible to adopt children from the U.S. foster care system.

There are 415,000 children in the U.S. foster care system and 108,000 are waiting to be adopted. That is just too many. And to make matters more complex, so many of those kids are seen as “too old” to be adopted by a family. Adoptuskids.org is a resource to help you whether you’re just starting the process to foster or adoption, waiting for a placement, or looking for post-adoption resources.


Contacting a local foster care agency is the best way to connect with resources and learn about policies to become a foster parent in your State. Choosing an agency should take into account your family’s personal preferences regarding the services provided by that agency. You can either use our interactive map of state adoption and foster care information for finding a local agency, or search Child Welfare Information Gateway’s National Foster Care and Adoption Directory.


Book Freak Family: Bridge to Terabithia

This past summer I got out of my house and out from under the lights of a computer monitor. I got a job in retail selling fun and funky fashion to the vacationers of stone harbor. It was good. It was healthy. It was right near a book store. I think I might have caught a book reader virus but I am not sure so proceed reading with caution.

I did have my phone at work one day and was ordering from Amazon (3 cheers for Amazon Prime) school supplies for this coming school year. Under the suggestion of one of the smartest hippies I know (this means she is either super smart or I hardly know any real hippies you decide 😉) I ordered a book about a Bridge to Terabithia. I wasn’t really sure much about the book except I thought I had heard of it before, the suggested age was 8 for reading, and this smart hippie said she once read it and I should read it. So, I put it in my virtual shopping cart (gees I hope my boss doesn’t read my blog 😎) and checked out with a massive amount of curriculum for the following year and 2 books about a bridge. (One for me and one for my 8 year old)


Then the book arrived. Getting an Amazon Prime order in my house is like Christmas in my house 2 days after delivery. Now let me explain something about my kids. My older kid loves historical fiction and my younger kid voluntarily reads Magic Tree House and …….that’s about it. But not long after I started reading the treehouse and after I gave him the book (I think I was on page 8) he got hooked. He finished before I did.

The book confronts death but also the value of a sibling. It confronts the topics of bullies and the topic of imagination. It talks about misunderstood home life and the parental connection with a child. Over all yes it tools about a bridge. Mainly, it built a bridge between me and my 8 year old.

Eventually, we couldn’t keep the bridge to ourselves and invited my husband and my oldest to Teribithia. They finished it in one day flat. Before I knew it, we were huddled around the TV eating popcorn discussing the book, watching the movie, and renaming our camping Terabithia. (You will have to read why!)

If you are looking for a book the whole family can read……this is the one. If you are looking for an escape from reality to a land of wonder….. this one is for you. Sometimes, the best books aren’t about adult topics. Sometimes, the best escape is to a land where the young at heart play.

We “HIGH 5” this book!

Have you ever read “The Bridge to Terabithia”? The movie might be just as great? (We don’t agree on which is better the book or the movie!) What say you? Have you ever been to Terabithia?

P.s. Turns out that Hippie chick is pretty smart. Don’t ever under estimate a hippie!

Things I Learned this Summer

I haven’t blogged in awhile.  I am exhausted and I think that is mainly because for the first time in a long time instead of writing about life, I am living.  This summer has been a learning experience. I have grown.  Here were 5 Amazing lessons from the summer of 2015.  Some of the lessons were heartbreaking but amazing because I have grown.  Even at 33 years old, I am not perfect and am still learning.

1.  Watching your kids grow up is hard.  Letting go is even harder. I have to slowly let go so it is easier when they are 18.  I do not want my kids relying on me forever even though I know people and the world can be a hard place. Sometimes, I have to push my kids out of the nest.  All I can do is pray that I am good enough of a parent to teach right from wrong and that I will always be here while on this earth and in heaven there after.  They can lean on each other.  That is the best part of being/having a sibling. 
2.  You will never fully know someone. Ever.  It’s awful when adults teach you this lessons.  I always seem to get taught this in multiple times in my life and it is hard.  Proceed with caution and grace. I have learned this summer that my family of 5 is all we have.  Friends are something to cherish. I see a lot of people live in a bubble behind their computer.  For the first time, I kind of understand why. I am supposed to protect my nest and teach my children to guard their heart.  I need to guard my heart too.  It is tough growing up. (Ohhhh wait already said that!)  

3.  I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up.  Except, a mom and a wife.  I don’t need to know tomorrow. I don’t have to stop dreaming today. My general doctor taught me this lesson when searching for overall health.  Just because I do not function like everyone else doesn’t mean there is nothing exciting ahead.  Dream. 

4.  Life doesn’t have to be extravagant to be beautiful.  You can find beauty inside people you never knew before.  You can find peace in nature. Just as you have to protect your heart you also need to learn to balance it on your sleeve.  Balance. It is so very hard.


(A Book is a Great Thing!) 

5.  Thinking out of the box.  Living out of the box. Being outside the box.  All good things to teach our children but also the box can make us really relatable.  Don’t be scared to jump in and out of the box.  Staying stationary is not good for to long in either place!  Don’t be scared to get low to get new perspective. Don’t be scared to hear people out and give them a chance even if things don’t work out in the end! Take leaps of faith and sometimes just sit back and watch people leap on their own.

What did you learn this summer? You are never to old to learn something new!

5 Amazing Things about the Best Product my Kids Have had to Review – NeckNapperz

I would love to introduce you to Necknapperz.  I am getting paid to inform you about this product but this is LEGIT my own story, thoughts and opinions.  To be fair to you, my readers, I wanted to disclose the compensation to you.  I hope you enjoy read about our Necknapperz experience. 

I love to travel. My kids got this from me. Necknapperz are the perfect travel item for kids, which make them ideal for any adventures you could ever plan.  I write about so many products on my blog.  I figured I would let my kids tell you why they loved this product so much. 

Nolan took a immediate liking to this product.  But really ALL OF MY KIDS LOVE NECKNAPPERZ!!! 

Here are 5 amazing things about Necknapperz. (According to Nolan)

1.  My sister can snuggle and play with our lion.  It is adorable to see.  She wants to take it everywhere.

2.  The whole stuffed animal is kind of like a transformer. It’s pretty cool it transforms from a loveable plush animal into an neck pillow wrap. I take it to musical practice and take naps whenever I can.  It is so comfy.

3.  They are made with ultra-soft fabrics with space-age micro-beads.



4. I have taken it everywhere for about a month and it is still holding up.  My mom says it is made with high quality craftsmanship.  

 5.  It comes in a varity of animals so almost anyone can find a Necknapperz neck pillow. I think I know what everyone is going to get from me for Christmas.  (I hope none of my family reads this post! Check them out on Facebook!)