My husband and I recently renewed our vows in Wildwood, Nj. I have to say it was the most amazing day that I can remember the two of us have experienced. I love my husband dearly. We have truly been through sickness and health. Those words mean so much more now since the day we originally spoke them at age 21 and 20.
I was worried that spending the money on this day would be something of waste. We do have bills. We have kids. Should we spend the money on them? I thought if we ever had a vow renewal it would be financially irresponsible. I was completely wrong. This day was an investment into our family. Our kids heard us say words to each other that I loved letting them overhear.
I was truly the best day of my life. This was for many reasons. My wedding was not what I dreamed it would be. It was a beautiful day but crazy details made things not quite fit into what I dreamed. My wedding dress didn’t fit right. I was completely nervous the whole day. My husband saw me by accident in my dress before I walked down the isle. I was in the hospital for 2 weeks and was released the day before.
Our vow renewal was just us. It was planned in 3 days. There was no stress. We said our own vows and we both cried. It wasn’t in front of a million people. There was no pressure. I never had a professional wedding photographer at our wedding. The disk copies of what was taken at the original day were lost. Hard copies that were in albums were damaged. At the renewal we had many pictures taken by an amazing photographer. A wonderful friend made us cupcakes. Another friend joined us to officiate the wedding. The person that introduced John and I came. My mom joined us while chasing our daughter around. All of these people will be forever friends. I would drop everything to help them. I hope they all know that. John and I would move mountains if they ever asked. Just 5 people that are now part of our story.
We choose the morey piers location because the day could be followed by epic pictures on the rides and a ton of family fun. Their event team Memoreys was amazing. All that was missing was a bouquet and they took care of that too.
Wedding vows are meant to be endless. They are meant to be said once and meant forever. In today’s world it just doesn’t seem to happen like that it seems. Divorce is at a high and couples are falling apart around us all while we are fighting for bills to get paid, bedtimes to be adhered to, and child rearing rules to be upheld. Sometimes you forget the promises that you once said. It isn’t that you “really” forget them, it just is your life is different and those words said some time ago take on different meanings. Fights happen, sickness happens, stress happens.
We renewed our vows at my husband and I’s 12 year mark. It was not a traditionally epic year to renew but we weren’t doing it because of those reasons. We didn’t have guests except those that could make it on a moments notice and that was ok. We were saying the words for each other and for our kids to overhear. Those promises are so special. When you renew “I take you in……” turns into “I STILL take you in…..!” It is monumental these days.
The day was beautiful. It may have been even more beautiful than my actual wedding. I cried this time saying my vows. The first time I didn’t. I ugly cried happy tears. It hasn’t been a dozen years of bliss. It has been a journey. That is exactly the point. We are not the same people we once were. I am forever different. We have grown up together. Our renewal was a beautiful day!
Here are 5 Amazing Reasons to renew your vows:
1. Your marriage has survived a traumatic situation, like sickness, and the vows mean different things to you now.
2. You want to celebrate you and your husband/wife. We celebrate each other in many different ways. Date nights and surprise kisses. It is ok if you want to celebrate where you have come and where you are going. Every year is worth celebrating.
3. You want your kids to hear the promises you once made or even include then in the ceremony. We had our kids play a part in the ceremony.
4. You have watched and are experiencing something hard in the workplace or with extended family and need assurance of family that you hold close.
5. Your family could not make your marriage because they did not live in the same country, you had dramatic family turmoil or you eloped.
Renewals don’t need to be elaborate. You aren’t obligated to anything like invites, meals, or party planning. The event can be intimate and beautiful. Ours sure was.
I use to think vow renewals were ridiculous. In fact as we walked around getting pictures taken we had many say “congratulations”! It was awkward at first but then I learned to say thank you. Marriage is hard. I feel like making it to 12 years is more of an accomplishment than getting engaged or our original wedding. If you are reading this and are considering renewing your vows for your anniversary, Congratulations from my family to yours.