5 Amazing Reasons to Renew your Vows

My husband and I recently renewed our vows in Wildwood, Nj. I have to say it was the most amazing day that I can remember the two of us have experienced. I love my husband dearly. We have truly been through sickness and health. Those words mean so much more now since the day we originally spoke them at age 21 and 20.

5 Reasons to Renew Your Wedding Vow

I was worried that spending the money on this day would be something of waste. We do have bills. We have kids. Should we spend the money on them? I thought if we ever had a vow renewal it would be financially irresponsible. I was completely wrong. This day was an investment into our family. Our kids heard us say words to each other that I loved letting them overhear.

I was truly the best day of my life. This was for many reasons. My wedding was not what I dreamed it would be. It was a beautiful day but crazy details made things not quite fit into what I dreamed. My wedding dress didn’t fit right. I was completely nervous the whole day. My husband saw me by accident in my dress before I walked down the isle. I was in the hospital for 2 weeks and was released the day before.

Our vow renewal was just us. It was planned in 3 days. There was no stress. We said our own vows and we both cried. It wasn’t in front of a million people. There was no pressure. I never had a professional wedding photographer at our wedding. The disk copies of what was taken at the original day were lost. Hard copies that were in albums were damaged. At the renewal we had many pictures taken by an amazing photographer. A wonderful friend made us cupcakes. Another friend joined us to officiate the wedding. The person that introduced John and I came. My mom joined us while chasing our daughter around. All of these people will be forever friends. I would drop everything to help them. I hope they all know that. John and I would move mountains if they ever asked. Just 5 people that are now part of our story.

We choose the morey piers location because the day could be followed by epic pictures on the rides and a ton of family fun. Their event team Memoreys was amazing. All that was missing was a bouquet and they took care of that too.

Wedding vows are meant to be endless. They are meant to be said once and meant forever. In today’s world it just doesn’t seem to happen like that it seems. Divorce is at a high and couples are falling apart around us all while we are fighting for bills to get paid, bedtimes to be adhered to, and child rearing rules to be upheld. Sometimes you forget the promises that you once said. It isn’t that you “really” forget them, it just is your life is different and those words said some time ago take on different meanings. Fights happen, sickness happens, stress happens.

We renewed our vows at my husband and I’s 12 year mark. It was not a traditionally epic year to renew but we weren’t doing it because of those reasons. We didn’t have guests except those that could make it on a moments notice and that was ok. We were saying the words for each other and for our kids to overhear. Those promises are so special. When you renew “I take you in……” turns into “I STILL take you in…..!” It is monumental these days.

The day was beautiful. It may have been even more beautiful than my actual wedding. I cried this time saying my vows. The first time I didn’t. I ugly cried happy tears. It hasn’t been a dozen years of bliss. It has been a journey. That is exactly the point. We are not the same people we once were. I am forever different. We have grown up together. Our renewal was a beautiful day!

Here are 5 Amazing Reasons to renew your vows:

1. Your marriage has survived a traumatic situation, like sickness, and the vows mean different things to you now.

2. You want to celebrate you and your husband/wife. We celebrate each other in many different ways. Date nights and surprise kisses. It is ok if you want to celebrate where you have come and where you are going. Every year is worth celebrating.

3. You want your kids to hear the promises you once made or even include then in the ceremony. We had our kids play a part in the ceremony.

4. You have watched and are experiencing something hard in the workplace or with extended family and need assurance of family that you hold close.

5. Your family could not make your marriage because they did not live in the same country, you had dramatic family turmoil or you eloped.

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Renewals don’t need to be elaborate. You aren’t obligated to anything like invites, meals, or party planning. The event can be intimate and beautiful. Ours sure was.

I use to think vow renewals were ridiculous. In fact as we walked around getting pictures taken we had many say “congratulations”! It was awkward at first but then I learned to say thank you. Marriage is hard. I feel like making it to 12 years is more of an accomplishment than getting engaged or our original wedding. If you are reading this and are considering renewing your vows for your anniversary, Congratulations from my family to yours.

Vow renewal couple

National Brush Day is Coming

National Brush Day is observed on November 1st, the day after Halloween. The one day that it is ok for people to dress up as superheroes and take candy from strangers. All that candy has to go somewhere and it usually ends up in our kids belly……or in their teeth.

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Sometimes we need to reinforce the importance of children’s oral health and to promote good tooth-brushing habits recommended by dental experts.

5 facts about Brushing

-More than 51 million school hours are lost each year due to dental related illness, resulting in parents losing 25 million work hours annually.

-Cavities and oral infections can cause severe pain and can increase a child’s risk for dental issues and poor health throughout their lives. I never knew how bad teeth could effect the immune system.

-While parenting can be tricky at times, getting kids to brush for two minutes, twice a day can be easier than most other things parents will try to teach their children.

Manners Lesson: http://youtu.be/QmOuAKCSOwQ

Cooking Lesson: http://youtu.be/SxNkXbDq58k

-You can Make brushing fun with the free Toothsavers App. You can learn more about it here.

5 Ways to Create more Calm in Your House

Is your home a little chaotic these days? Well, did you know that there are things you can do to create a more peaceful home? Check out these 5 ways you can start this process right now in your home.

5 peaceful ways to keep a calm house

#1. Limit Electronics
You can have a more peaceful home by limiting the number of electronics you allow in your life. Don’t keep your iPhone or iPad next to your bed if you can help it.

#2. Light a Candle or use an Oil Diffuser
Did you know lighting a candle within your home can help you have a more peaceful home? Give it a try! You can use several oils if this helps you feel more at peace. It is an added bonus that many people believe in aromatherapy to help you feel better.

#3. Clutter Free Home
Want a peaceful home? Get rid of some of the clutter. Your mind and soul will never feel at peace if you can’t get your house in order.

#4. Stay Calm
The woman is the center of the household, when she’s not calm the house isn’t calm and never will be.

#5. Design Your Home
When you design your home, you should think of ways to make it more peaceful. Maybe you don’t need that chaotic wall paper after all.

5 (Not-so-Amazing) Things You Need to Discuss with your Family for National Preparedness Month

My husband and I just sat my boys down and had a conversation with them that was needed. We live in NJ, smack in between Philly, NYC, and Washington D.C. I love where we live but when it comes to crisis and natural disasters my husband and I have come to terms with the fact we are grid locked. I love Cape May, NJ. I love calling it home so we aren’t leaving anytime soon. We will take Cape May, in beautiful weather and bad. But I am a realist and I want to be prepared and my family be prepared if a disaster was to hit.

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The conversation started with just my husband and I and then we invited the kids in. These kind of situations can be scary for kiddos but being prepared can ease a lot of fear.

5 ways to Plan

We came up with a plan. I am very happy to share it with you. I encourage you to make a plan no matter where you live. I love my kids and cannot imagine a moment of not knowing where they are, but those occasional times happen. Cell phone towers do go down in bad weather and chaos ensues.

-Start with holding a family meeting to discuss and make a plan. Remember everyone needs to be on the same page. Although disasters can be scary, remaining calm and knowing you have a plan is important. It is in those times I want to have a family communication plan.

– I sat down with my husband and we discussed every scary scenario that we have ever held in our nightmares from tornadoes, hurricanes and beyond.
– We brought in the kids and announced our plan. We designated a relative that lives far away as our person to contact if we can’t reach each other. We discussed phones being out of service and discourage tying up phone lines and freeing them for emergency workers. We encouraged a texting communication plan.

– We focused the next week on memorizing phone numbers. In times of chaos, phones batteries die out. We memorized numbers so we do not rely on our cell phone contact list.
– We created a mutual place to meet that is out of the neighborhood in case we are unable to get to our home. We created a time table on when to check in and discussed ways to save our phone batteries. We considered email as an option if for some reason that is possible.

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Overall, I walked away from the conversation relieved and feeling prepared. I remind everyone to remain calm and stick to the plan and ,as a mom, I walked away knowing we are a more connected family as ever. We will always think positive and if we ever are in need I know we have a plan. That, makes me feel more prepared. I hope you take the time to be prepared too. For more information visit Ready.gov!